One of my favorite books is A Circle of Quiet by Madeleine L’Engle.
In it there is a section where she is talking about how hard it was to be a writer in her 30’s while she was also raising a family. She says she was so exhausted most of the time that she wanted to stop, but the writing was something so core to her being that she couldn’t.
She said it was the tired 30’s.
Isn’t that phrase the perfect way to describe this time of life? Being everything to everyone else. Forgetting that we have needs too.
I see you, pushing your cart through Target, Starbucks in hand, and I want to tell you that it’s ok. We’re all tired and none of us have it all together (no matter what Instagram and Facebook would have you believe).
So, my fellow tired 30’s, join me in slowing down just a little. Before we burn out completely and forget that there really should be no crying (or full out sobbing) over spilled milk.
What does embroidery have to do with being tired?
You can create a respite in your day when you stop to embroidery.
Stop thinking you don’t have the time.
Stop it. I mean it. Are you ready to listen now?
This is how joy slipped into my life unexpectedly.
After my 3rd baby, I was craving a creative outlet, something to remind me that my identity didn’t only exist as mommy. But, with three kiddos around (and that exhaustion creeping in) it was difficult to motivate myself to start anything big. That’s when I remembered how much I used to love stitching. I pulled out some fabric and thread and experienced accomplishment and relaxation in the span of 20 minutes.
What in the world was that? Maybe it was a fluke.
Then it happened every time I picked up my current project. And the more I stitched, the more I realized that I was experiencing peace and slowness in those moments. This coincided with a gratitude journal practice I had started. Writing down my gifts throughout the day, big and small. Just noticing.
Between slowing down through stitching and practicing gratitude, I felt an immense amount of contentment.
I was joyful about my life. My imperfect, messy, everyday life.
Of course it’s not every single moment of every single day (I’m not Parker happy at the Geller’s 35th wedding anniversary, exclaiming about the light of a million fairies in a traffic jam or thrilled about the dish dispenser at a wedding).
But it started to be an attitude, a way of living.
Embroidery was training me how to live in the moment.
Lovely Messes was born out of that joy. A desire to let other women know that there is a way to slow down. A way to discover that joy is all around you, even in the fog of the tired 30’s.
It’s all well and good to try stitching once.
But to truly see results, I believe you need to build two habits into your day.
Both stitching and gratitude.
That’s why the Stitch Joy Box is being released next month.
Sometimes choosing a pattern to stitch next can be overwhelming. I wanted to make it easy for you to build a stitch habit into your day by sending you a new kit each and every month. All the supplies that you need and preprinted fabric means you can start as soon as you’re ready.
So that covers the stitching habit, but what about gratitude?
Isn’t it so much easier to continue new habits when you have a team behind you? Cheering you on, giving you ideas, and following the same path.
Instead of just sending you a box and leaving you on your own, you will also gain access to a brand new Facebook group just for Stitch Box Subscribers. You will be a part of the Stitch Joy Tribe. A tribe focused on wildly pursuing joy in our everyday lives stitch by stitch. I will be there, with stitching tips, gratitude prompts, and so much more!
If you want to be a part of this movement, join me on September 7th.
It will be lovely, it will be messy, it will be real.
In the spirit of being real, I don’t remember anything if I don’t write it down. If you’re like me, sign up below to be reminded when the Stitch Joy Box is available on September 7th!